It is not that men can not plan.  They can.  They do.  As a matter of fact, men do a darn good job of planning.  The rub is, men have to know what it is they are planning, before they can plan it.   The first launch on the moon, the first hostile takeover, and just about every war in the history were planned by men.  But those plans were the men who knew how engineering, securities laws and warfare actually work.   




Women are different.  Women can plan something they know absolutely nothing about.  In fact, it seems the less a woman knows about a thing, the more she enjoys planning it.  Women who never been married, plan weddings.  Women who never had children, plan their pregnancies a year out.  Women plan their first dates, their china servings, their break-ups and -- yes -- do not flatter yourselves -- your proposal and the ring they will get.  Women buy the “One year before the wedding” books, the “What to expect when you are expecting” books, the “What to do on the first ten dates books.”  They color-code, organize and schedule the things that only Gods can understand.  




So women have an upper hand when they decide to dump you.  It is not that women understand how the divorce works any better than men do.  They don’t.  Most of them really don’t.  But I promise you that they will start planning it.  And they are right to do so.  The thing is, weddings, trips, and even pregnancies may turn out just fine without any plan.  But divorce will not.  It requires a plan.  




I will say this again.  If you do not plan your divorce, you have two options.  Go with your wife’s plan.  Before you do, ask yourself: did you your wife plan the wedding?  How did that go for you?  If your answer is not a resounding “best party ever,” you have to get to work.  But know this.  Changing your wife’s plan, once she had made it, is hard.  Making the plan for both of you is easier.  If you start early.   Here is the man’s simple, step-by-step guide to a relatively painless divorce.  I will tell you what you need to do.   More importantly, I will tell you why you need to do it.  




18 to 12 months before the D-day.


 



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